Write Way Wednesday April 1 Recap

For the past many months of Wednesdays, my face has popped via Facebook video to share a writing update, as well as offer a message of encouragement. It has been my intention to build a community of support by starting discussions pertaining to goals and growth. I hoped that by opening up about my novel-writing and personal development struggles and strides, I could prove to you (and myself) that progress is indeed possible on these sometimes difficult dream-chasing journeys.

Undoubtedly, my passion for creating these connections has not changed, although a great deal of other things have. And as our days continue on in this uncertain limbo, I, like many of you I’m sure, have been working to revamp my definition of normal. Right now, I’m not sure what that is. Much like our current global situation, there are a lot more questions than answers.

What I do know is that when I started planning this week’s blog and social media posts, rather than feeling energized and excited, I felt a bone-deep exhaustion. Normally, when that happens I push through it with an internal pep talk filled with key words like accountability and consistency and algorithms. I repeat the mantras that have kept me going in the past: Rise up. Show up. Don’t quit. But as we all know, things are not normal.

So this time, when I felt that need for a break, I simply said okay. Something I’ve realized in the midst of this pandemic, is that we have the opportunity to sharpen our listening skills. And that starts with listening to ourselves. That might mean taking a step back to reevaluate our time. It might mean pausing to reflect on our focus. It might mean asking: What’s possible today? What’s essential now? What old habits and routines do I want to carry forth into the other side of this?

I don’t yet have a complete picture of what this looks like for myself, but it will involve writing. I’ll still be seeking representation/publication for my first novel and working on the second. I’ll still be writing to my email friends with periodic updates and a quarterly newsletter. I’ll still be active on this blog and on Facebook, where I’ll continue to practice daily gratitude and encourage you to pursue your own dreams and goals. The difference is that my posts may become less structured, less involved, less wordy. But if there’s another thing I’ve learned of late, it’s that oftentimes less is more.

So, if today is a tough day for you too, dear friend, remember to give yourself grace. You don’t have to do it all. You don’t have to use up your last shred of energy. You don’t have to run on empty. Sometimes, all you can do is just what you can do. And that is okay.

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Write Way Wednesday March 25 Recap

Here’s what we discussed during yesterday’s Write Way Wednesday (if you prefer to watch rather than read, head over to my Facebook page to check out the video):

Writing Update

  • Agent news: I received two more rejections from my latest group of submissions, however, their guidelines state that it is ok to query another agent even if one says no, so I’ll likely be submitting to these same agencies again. You might wonder if continuing to query is a pointless venture given the current worldwide situation, but I do follow several agents on Twitter who have said that despite not being able/allowed to go into their offices, they are still working. Many are, in fact, eager to receive new queries. So, if you are a writer and are ready to query right now, I strongly urge you to move forward.
  • Newsletter: First edition went out last week, but you can still head fill out the form on the home page to subscribe.
  • Gratitude practice: Gratitude is important always—it keeps our minds searching for and focused on the positive—but it seems even more crucial right now, so last Tuesday I instated a yearlong gratitude practice. Every day around 9 am, I post a short message of daily gratitude on both Facebook and Twitter and I invite you to join me. Use these posts as reminders to embark on your own gratitude journey.
  • Book #2: What’s going on in the world is both the reason I should be making more progress on my second novel and also the reason that I’m not making much progress. With so many activities cancelled and so many places closed, I am finding myself at home more and with more time to write, but I am also finding myself to be easily distracted and my energy waning. To combat these feelings, I’ve had to return to the basics. To The ABCs of a Purposeful WIP:

Goals/Progress/Growth

  • Acknowledge accountability. There’s no question that a good majority of what is going on around us right now is out of our control, but what is within our control is our own response. We can choose to expend our energy blaming and accusing or we can use it purposefully. We can take care of ourselves and our loved ones. We can be accountable for our health and wellbeing, our time and resources, our focus and our fight.
  • Set boundaries. This is a little tricky as many of us are at home with significant others and children, but boundaries are essential to progress. And sanity. This may take intentionality and ingenuity—like setting timers or turning a car or a closet into a workspace in order to find focus or quiet—but it can be done.
  • Create consistency. This is going to look different for all of us, but because no one knows how long this will last, it’s important to settle into a new normal. So use a calendar or a planner to develop a schedule, build structure, and find those precious moments to keep going on that goal. Even if it’s twenty minutes, heck even if it’s only two minutes a day, own it.
  • Disable distractions. It is so tempting to drown our fear and anxiety in social media or binge-watching all the TV shows. But numbing out not only distracts us from where we want to be, it also creates incredible backslides which we will eventually need to work even harder to recover from. So indulge, yes. Offer grace, absolutely. But try to set some limits and strike a balance.

I realize that no two people are experiencing this in the same way. We might all be in a boat, but it’s definitely not the same one. So, although it feels a little silly to continue talking about goals and growth and progress (and trust me, I have repeatedly pondered the purpose) that is something I can do. And continuing to work toward your goals and growth is something you can do. Our paths might look a little different right now, but we don’t have to lose momentum.

I am fortunate to have already been set up to work from home, and I am grateful to be able to be here with and for you. So talk to me. Tell me how things are going for you. Tell me about your wins. Tell me about your struggles. Post your thoughts and questions in the comments and then meet me on Facebook next week Wednesday at noon so we can discuss them (or watch for the recap to be posted here Thursday morning).

Until then, stay safe, stay healthy, and remember progress is always possible, but we must be purposeful in order to make it happen.

Write Way Wednesday March 18 Recap

Here’s what we discussed during yesterday’s Write Way Wednesday (if you prefer to watch rather than read, head over to my Facebook page to check out the video):

It has always been my intention to keep my blog and Facebook page free from all topics that are even remotely political in nature. I don’t post about news or world headlines or current events. I don’t comment on or share things that incite controversy or malicious exchanges. And my reasoning has nothing to do with a lack of awareness or concern, but rather a purposeful decision to emphasize encouragement and optimism.

If you’ve joined me on previous Wednesdays, you know that I would normally be here with a prepared update regarding what I’ve been writing and working on over the last week. I would have a planned message of encouragement and motivation for those of you with your own goals of growth and progress.

But I know I don’t need to tell you that these last many weeks have been anything but normal. And if there’s one thing we’ve all had to learn, it’s that our plans don’t mean squat right now. What’s going on in the world is big. It’s bigger than my social media focus. It’s bigger than all of us. It’s too big to ignore. So, amid all the uncertainty and uncontrollable circumstances, I’m interrupting today’s regularly scheduled programming to offer two simple reminders:

  1. We’re all in this together. This may be one of the greatest calls for compassion, faith, and hope that most of us have ever seen because we are all affected. We are all struggling with varying degrees of distress, disruption, and disappointment due to closings and cancellations. None of has control over what tomorrow may bring or how long this will last, but we can control our reactions. We can treat each other with respect and kindness. We can remember that life as we know it is a communal effort and righting our upended world is going to depend on each and every one of us to prudently care for ourselves, our loved ones, and our neighbors.
  2. We’re doing the best we can. We are human and even on our best days we make gargantuan mistakes. But throw in a boatload of fear and insecurity and logic goes out the window leaving emotions to rule our responses. Add to that the constant influx of news and opinions that we are subjected to and the general level of anxiety rises as we feel powerless to affect change. What we CAN do, though, is be conscientious about what we are posting/sharing on social media. We can ask ourselves if it is helpful or harmful. Is it allaying panic or adding to it? Is it placing blame and criticism or offering grace? There’s a lot of nastiness going on out there, but there’s also a lot of love. Let’s choose to spread the love.

In the words of Forrest Gump, that’s all I have to say about that.

I hope you are all staying well, or recovering well if you have been ill. I hope you are finding ways to cope/adjust to the ever-evolving situation. And I hope you will join me here again next week as I plan to return to the normal Write Way Wednesday format.

Until then, I’ll be praying for safety, peace, and health for us all.

Write Way Wednesdays

About a year ago, I started writing weekly posts on Facebook that I dubbed Write Way Wednesdays. These were simple, bulleted lists meant to keep my family and friends up-to-date on my novel-writing progress, but eventually, they morphed into more.

Write Way Wednesdays were named as such because it was through writing that I finally found my way. I found my way through the fear and doubt and resistance that not only kept me from making progress on my novel, but also kept me feeling just generally stuck in my life, too.

I often felt alone in this. I’d see other people doing the things I wanted to do—fearlessly chasing down dreams, knocking out goal after goal after goal, successfully writing and selling books—and I’d feel so behind and inferior and incapable.

But then by a series of fortunate events, I managed to forge some connections with others through personal growth workshops and online communities and social media groups, and I began to realize that there were others a lot like me. Those who repeatedly find themselves trapped by self-induced sabotage and confidence-shaking doubt and growth-stunting fear. And I wondered if by opening up about my experience and sharing what I’ve learned, I might be able to help even one person who has struggled to move forward as I had.

So that’s when Write Way Wednesdays became both an avenue for those writing updates and also a platform for offering encouragement, not only to writers, but to anyone with a goal, a dream, or an aspiration that has thus far felt unattainable. That’s also when those simple written posts turned into more involved videos—an uncomfortable but necessary step in my own growth process—and then, most recently, into Facebook Live videos.

I share all this here now for two reasons:

  1. To show that growth—real growth with permanent staying power—requires taking a lot of small steps. It was always my intent to do Write Way Wednesdays as Live videos. I talked about this idea with a good friend of mine last winter, but it took several months of continuing to write the posts before I graduated to recorded videos. And it took several more months (eight, to be exact) before I found the nerve to sit in front of a camera in real time. The point is progress from written posts to Live videos was a giant leap for me, but within that giant leap there were a number of smaller steps, many of which I didn’t even realize were moving me forward until I looked back. Which brings me to my second reason for sharing this now, and that is hope.
  2. It is my hope that these Write Way Wednesday videos will act as one of those smaller steps for you. That by opening a genuine dialogue centered on growth and goals and the struggles and successes involved in both, we can encourage and inspire each other. In that vein, I’m changing things up just a bit. Whereas previously, I approached these videos with fully scripted ideas, I now would like to focus more on you. What have you learned on your journey? What goals are you reaching for? What successful steps are you celebrating? What obstacles have you encountered? My vision is to make these live discussions as open and welcoming as possible, so that we might all find the support and confidence we need to take that next step on our own path.

So join me on Facebook* every Wednesday at noon (CT) with your questions, your stories, your experiences and wisdom. And be sure to invite your friends, because life is simply made more beautiful through community.

*If you’re not on Facebook or you prefer to read versus watch videos, I will post a Write Way Wednesday recap here every Thursday morning, where you are welcome to share any thoughts, questions, or suggested discussion topics in the comments section.